Q: We recently moved, and we’re afraid our son is being bullied at his new school. Do you have any advice?
Jim: Unfortunately, bullying isn’t limited just to the schoolyard anymore. “Thanks” to technology (especially “social” media), it can happen to anyone, anywhere, anytime. The only remedy is to expose it for what it is.
First, if you sense there’s a problem, don’t wait for your son to talk about it. Ask: “Is someone picking on you at school?” Bullies often threaten to harm a child if he tells. Strong lines of communication will assure your son that he’s not alone. And watch for nonverbal signs of bullying (wanting to stay home, consistently “losing” snack/ lunch money, etc.).
Second, take it seriously. It could take every ounce of courage your child has to admit he’s being harassed. Younger kids might not have the vocabulary to fully explain what’s happening to them. So don’t minimize or dismiss the severity of their situation.
Third, encourage your child to stick close to friends whenever possible. The presence of even one buddy might deter a bully. Peer support doesn’t replace adult intervention, but it can provide an emotional safety net and help restore lost hope.
Finally, discreetly take action. Your child may fear that things will just get worse if you make a fuss. But talk to teachers, school administrators, parents and family friends -- anyone you can to ensure your son has the resources needed to feel safe. You might even consider pulling him from school for a few days until the problem is handled.
I’d also strongly recommend visiting with a counselor so your child can work through any lingering feelings of fear. Our staff counselors would be happy to help you get started and offer referrals to a local therapist. Call 855-771-HELP (4357) or visit FocusOnTheFamily. com for more information.
Jim Daly is a husband and father, an author, and president of Focus on the Family and host of the Focus on the Family radio program. Catch up with him at www.jimdalyblog. com or at www.facebook. com/DalyFocus.
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