The issues of controlling anger

Q: I have to admit that my temper gets the best of me. When my husband or kids push my buttons, I just “let it out” (with words, not violence). That’s how my parents lived and how I was raised. Is there any way I can change?

Jim: Many people see anger as an uncontrollable emotion. But that’s false. You can control how you express your anger – in fact, you probably already do it.

Here’s an example: You and your spouse are in the car heading to your friends’ home for dinner. What should be a fun evening is already marred by a heated argument you’re having. With no one else around, you’re both giving full vent, snapping at each other all the way across town. You might even continue arguing as you’re walking up to your friends’ porch.